First Look Vs Walking Down the Aisle
Ah, the wedding day. It’s full of big decisions: cake flavors, seating charts, whether or not to invite that one cousin who overshares on social media. But one of the most exciting (and emotional) decisions you’ll make is this: do you want to see your partner before the ceremony, or wait for that dramatic aisle moment?
As a photographer who’s seen it all (seriously, I’ve been behind the camera for hundreds of weddings), I can tell you this: both options are amazing. But they’re also wildly different. Your choice can shape not just your wedding timeline, but also the vibe and flow of your entire day.
So, how do you decide? Don’t worry—I’m here to break it down for you. Whether you’re Team First Look or Team Aisle Reveal, this guide will help you figure out what’s best for you and your partner. Let’s dive in.
Option 1: A “First Look”
What Is a First Look?
Picture this: you, looking amazing. Your partner, trying not to ugly cry. The two of you, standing in a quiet spot about to see each other for the first time on your wedding day. That’s a first look—a pre-planned moment where you ditch the crowds and take a second to soak it all in together.
Logistically speaking, your photographer (hi, it’s me!) will choreograph the whole thing. I’ll find the perfect spot, line up the timing, and make sure the lighting is doing you all kinds of favors. Your job? Show up, look incredible, and try not to faint when you see how good your partner cleans up.
Why do couples love a first look?
One word: efficiency. (Okay, also romance, but mostly efficiency.) With a first look, we can knock out all the portraits—couple photos, family, wedding party—before the ceremony even starts. Translation? After the vows, you can skip the awkward “we’re at cocktail hour, but where’s the couple?” vibe and head straight to the party.
Oh, and let’s not forget the pre-wedding jitters. Seeing your partner before the ceremony is basically like taking a deep breath with your favorite human. It’s private, it’s grounding, and I’ll be there to capture every laugh, happy tear, and stunned “wow, you look amazing” moment. (Quietly, of course. I’m good like that.) See one of our favorite first look reactions here!
Option 2: Walking down the aisle
What Does It Mean to Wait for the Aisle?
This is the classic, the showstopper, the “movie moment” of your wedding day. One partner standing at the end of the aisle, trying not to cry. The other making their grand entrance, surrounded by everyone you love. If that sounds like your vibe, walking down the aisle is your moment to shine.
For couples who love tradition, this is the way to go. It’s dramatic, emotional, and let’s face it—nothing quite beats the anticipation of seeing each other for the first time in front of your family and friends. Bonus points if your partner’s reaction gives everyone a good, cathartic cry.
But what about the photos?
I won’t lie—sticking to tradition might mean your timeline gets a little tighter. That’s because all the portraits—couple photos, family, and wedding party—will need to happen after the ceremony. No big deal, though! If you go this route, you can always opt for an earlier ceremony to leave plenty of time for photos before heading to the reception.
Bottom line? If you’re dreaming of that big aisle reveal, go for it. It’s your day, your moment, and the perfect way to keep all eyes on you—just the way it should be.
This wedding was at the beautiful Planterra Conservatory in West Bloomfield, MI.
Here is a quick link to the Conservatory’s Website!
So, What’s the Verdict?
Whether you choose a first look or wait for that aisle moment, there’s no wrong answer. Both options bring their own magic to your wedding day, and it really comes down to what feels right for you as a couple. Are you all about efficiency and sneaking in a quiet moment together? First look it is. Prefer the drama and tradition of locking eyes for the first time during the ceremony? Cue the aisle walk.
The most important thing? This is your day. From the timeline to the tiniest details, your wedding should reflect you and your partner—no one else. And trust me, as someone who’s captured all kinds of love stories, the best moments always come when couples stay true to themselves.
So, whatever you decide, know that I’ll be there to document every laugh, tear, and moment of pure joy. And at the end of the day, you’ll be married to your favorite person. What could be better than that?
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